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This post has now been up and down from the site three times....  seems Fridays is a good day for decision making.  Also seems as though Fridays is a good day for tension to reach maximum and for me to require some thinking and reflection time....  

Let us start somewhere in the middle.... or perhaps at the conclusion :)  I expect some instant dismissal but anyway.

let’s talk human connection and fear...  strange to connect them you think? 

A few questions;

-       what stops connection between people?

-       why are social rules upheld so strongly when the net result is disconnection and loneliness?  (“I don’t know them well enough”, “her family will be there so why would she need me” or “I have enough friends” etc)

-       Do we as individuals crave connection yet blame "society" for the lack of it..... aggression, selfishness, self-centredness, greed; always someone else’s attribution and never our own?

-       Why do more and more people talk to the empty internet audience ???? like me now...

To get this far and to read on you must agree that we are a disconnected society.  That is more and more people are lonely even though more and more “know” each other.If I understand why or not...  educated or not... I personally always return to seeing a disconnected population seeking the same things I seek; honest, open, non-judging and accepting connection. 

Everyone doesn't have strengths and weaknesses ?....   Do we have so little faith in people to understand that???  perhaps that’s it.... so I wonder what it would take to trust someone you have just met.... has our classification into what is right and wrong (psychology) driven the fear of judgement?  backroom psychology practiced by a considerable number... a popular science...  of which I am one such unqualified practising individual...  

regardless

It wouldn’t be a philosophy if I don’t have a proposition.... 

Whether we want to acknowledge it or not I believe we are afraid to let down our guard and let people know us.  And we can afford to be selective because there are so many interactions and people to choose from.  Mostly we don’t acknowledge the fear because we can easily dismiss it (busy etc).  Like a rich man; there is no need to care for what he has because he can always buy another.   The population is fearful and nothing challenges that fear because we are spoilt.

BUT.  How can we be spoilt with interaction yet be disconnected ?  I admire those who to date walk through life with friends at every turn.  People to relate with, share with, confide in.   I suspect those of you in this group struggled to identify any lack of connection.   I wonder if you know anyone who despite friends struggles with depression (1 in 5 these days) .  Personally I think the answer is rather obvious and I am going to jump the in-between; our interactions are more superficial.

But hey.... if your happy your happy right?  Its all subjective yeah.   Well no; my entire point is that while the majority flick around in more and more superficial relationships the number of unsupported, lonely and depressed people grows steadily and statistically this will be you in the not too distant future.   Makes me wonder if I can spend some more time with someone who may need it and who unbeknown to me has no one else.